We survived! Olie is officially out of the fourth trimester. There were definitely some rough days and nights, but overall, the time was short.
I made this list for a friend who’s due in the early summer, of things that I found useful during Olie’s first three months.
- Family sleeper – http://www.humanityorganics.com/humanity-family-sleeper.html – you get this early and can use the pillow for pregnancy. just got one. wish i’d had it sooner.
- Swaddle blankets – http://alphamom.com/pregnancy/swaddling-blankets-the-good-the-bad-the-useless/ – i agree with her. Woombie wasn’t very useful. I had a swaddleme blanket and it was ok.
- Ergo – baby carrier with infant insert. Others are too complicated. We tried the moby wrap, the hot sling and the bjorn. I still have hopes that I’ll figure out the ring sling.
- Pre-made, just heat and eat meals.
- gdiapers – rock! – cute, eco friendly. you can flush the disposable liners! no other diaper can do that. plus they have cloth liners if you want to do some of your own diapering. and diapers.com seems to be a pretty good site. I’m making some cloth inserts from old pre-folded cloth diapers.
- Elimination Communication – http://kellymom.com/parenting/infantpottytraining.html – We’ve been doing this with Olie for a week. It sounds crazy, but it’s working! I’ve only had two poopy diapers from him all week. Makes washing diapers at home way cheaper, and will be less money all around. Check out videos on youtube. Seriously.
- kellymom.com – good site for parenting info and breastfeeding info
- Lactation consultant that you know ahead of time, so that she can help with stuff the first few weeks
- The happiest baby on the block DVD – GET THIS!!!!! makes a huge difference.
- Placenta pills – wierd I know, but i think it contributed to my stable mood and fairly quick recovery – http://www.placentapills.com/
- Post-partum doula – http://www.dona.org/mothers/faqs_postpartum.php
- La Leche League group meetings – I so wish I had gone to more of these, and even gone to a few before he was born. There is SOOOO much good stuff at these. I love the Alameda group. Virginia, the leader there, is Awesome.
- New mom’s group – so you know you’re not the only one going crazy
- Sleep when the baby sleeps. Really. This meant some nights I went to bed at 6:30pm. It worked. I got sleep.
- Flannel baby wipes that we rewash.
- Charlie’s Soap for washing diapers and wipes.
- Diaper changing table near a sink.
- Night lights.
- Bottle warmer.
- Medela hand pump.
- Slip-on shoes
- Books on breastfeeding - La Leche League’s The Womanly Art of Breastfeeding, So that’s what these are for and The nursing mother’s companion
- Books on sleeping – The no-cry sleep solution and Good Nights
- General book on babies - The Baby Book by Dr. Sears. This is a good one to read the first few chapters of before the birth.
- Audio books -you won’t be moving much for a while. Check out audible.com
- Patience – with yourself, the baby, the papa, and others.
- Trust in yourself and your baby – Mamas and babies are smart.
- Acceptance – that a baby is not designed to be convenient to adults. Knowledge of the baby’s developmental stages (described in The Baby Book) helps with this.
- Creativity and Flexibility – so you can respond to your baby’s temperament, and do what works for you. http://www.our365.com/Wisdom/Babies/Growth/Your%20Baby%27s%20Temperament.aspx
- Confidence and backbone – useful when what works for you and your baby is different from others/books/advice
- Friends and family – especially ones willing to fold laundry and wash dishes.
Useful for a very short time
- Baby bath stuff – i just get in the bath with him.
- Lamaze mobile – http://www.amazon.com/Manhattan-Toy-201770-Infant-Stim-Mobile/dp/B00009ZIKH/ref=sr_1_3?s=baby-products&ie=UTF8&qid=1293837418&sr=1-3 – He LOVEs this. Most of his first smiles and laughs were for the mobile. They make great toys too.
- A swing!!!!!! Graco loving hug ones plug in.
- Diaper service
- Beatles for babies http://www.amazon.com/Happy-Baby-Beatles-Various-Artists/dp/B00000JSBA
- DIY baby legs – http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=MYO4T_q0x0Y – so fun to make
- Chiropractic – to adjust the lower back and hips
- Massage – especially for upper body while adjusting to breastfeeding.
- For pregnancy/post-partum eczema – twice daily – face washing, followed by hydrogen peroxide as toner and a gentle moisturizer
- House cleaners
- Sitz baths
- Triple cream – equal parts miconazole, hydrocortisone cream, and polysporin to treat thrush/yeast on nipples
- Turtlenecks cut off just below the breasts paired with regular tank tops – for DIY, affordable, fashionable, easy access, discreet nursing wear
- Turtlenecks with slits cut at the breasts for co-sleeping
- Snack, energy, granola type bars, and Breakfast cookies – http://www.kingarthurflour.com/recipes/breakfast-cookies-recipe – I substitute honey for brown sugar, coconut oil for butter, soymilk for milk.
Not useful for me
- Nursing cover – http://themamareport.com/confessions/baby-bond-couture-review/ – of course you could just use a long scarf, folded in half. I’ll try this later today. I didn’t like the Balboa nursing cover because it seems bulky and awkward.
- Breast Friend – great if your girl nurses for long periods of time. Olies a sprint nurser, so useless for me
- Boppy Pillow – same as breast friend, but has good use for propping up baby also
- Bjorn carrier – bad for us. maybe good for Jeff. It’s Dad’s favorite.
- Wipes warmer wasn’t very useful.
Mark may have a completely different list. =)